Progress is life

Just to represent growth

Can we define life without progress? No, isn't it.

Let us take an example. When we plant a tree and then we see growth in it. The day it stops growing, we assume this is it's maximum height. Does it mean all tree from same type seed have same height. Why some tree of same seed grow more and some less. This is all logical but here my objective is to focus on human life.

As a human, we take birth. During initial days, we live on support system and the support system need reduces with time. We attain an age when we don't need support more or less. Then we prepare our self to support others. Say we create a baby and we provide support. and till the end of life we do the same and support more people. Grow society, family.

Also as a human, we have several vertical of growth, like personal relationship, caring for self, social relationship and professional growth. Many of the successful sportsman, always repeat that we can learn from everything. But what is the benefit of learning. Learning is no learning until we apply it.

The question pops up is where to apply our learning. In most cases, we read, see, listen and experience to get learning but we don't apply. Even if we apply it is in very minor quantity.

The prime reason is our current state. Knowing how you are working is half success. When we apply our learning, it transform our life. But the main reason why most people don't transform is afraid of knowing themselves, careless about their future, they believe it may come at a large cost, or they were told that now your only responsibility is to take care of your wife and kids.

It is very important to note down our current state, In every vertical how we handle the situation, we should first write down. Then we should continuously put innocent effort on it. We should note down what can we do better to make things better.

Taking an example we go to meeting. Generally many people go with blind idea. They don't have any idea what to expect. What could be their question?

Many people struggle with asking good question is only because they prepare for meeting. They come blind and then what they learn they forget within few days. But if you do two thing like noting down what the intention of the meeting and second what my question should be. Few meetings agenda you may not be aware but most of the meeting agenda and what to expect we know. I think when meeting is planned ahead, you must prepare well to draw best out of it.

Finally I remember the tag line of Reliance i.e. growth is life. What is your intention in your life. Think and comment.

Taking Ownership for Happiness

This is how people react when not owning responsibility

I own a house. How do we feel when we say this sentence. We get two kind of senses:
1. Feeling of enjoyment or proud or feeling valued
2. Sense of responsibility

There are above two part of everything we have. We can use the home for sleeping, for celebrating any function, we can use for cooking and many other. But at the same time, if there is any damage into home, we have to fix it. We have to be serious about it otherwise the consequences we will have to face. It is not that we feel sad when we do repair. In fact we feel happy to fix it. and consider it as our part of life.

In corporate world, everyone want to be seen as good, successful, or a person who never makes mistakes or always take correct decision, do their work on or before time. Is it really possible to be a person doing work without doing any mistake ever. We all are human being. We are tend to make mistake. 

If we make mistake who will own it. Since most people work in a team, they get a scope to blame others or deny their mistake. But just think if you are head of your family, can you deny your mistake. Why don't we accept mistake and then correct it. If we don't acknowledge mistake, we can never fix them.

The problem with not taking ownership is, we never feel attachment with work. We always look for our last day salary. When we do the work, our only intention is to throw the ball in others net. This way you never get the happiness since you are not attached with work. But if we take ownership of work, the magic will start happen.

We will feel very happy when we complete our work. When you leave office there will be sense of satisfaction. Your work which contribute a large part of time your spent, will be highly utilized and you will feel highly satisfied. if you make mistake you can accept your criticism and you can understand that rejection of your suggestion is merely rejection of your idea rather than you. You will be open for feedback. Open for positive criticism.

When we start taking ownership, we start looking at problem from different perspective. You try to learn some new skill even if it doesn't fall in to your work scope. You approach all other share holder and bring them on table. We try to share our learning with team so that team can perform better. Your approach to problem will be different. You don't want to put any burden on others for your work. You become open to suggestion and help.

In fact our small steps like not doing litter, urine, throw garbage in public place. These baby steps have power to transform India. But for that you need to attach yourself with India as your motherland and you are responsible to keep it clean.

Dear reader, please share your comments.

Objective for making India#1

Nobel prize winner Kailash satyapathi has once said, "India has hundred of problems and millions of solutions." Our team TOTAL always believe that we can contribute solutions to problems India has. So who are are and what we are doing and why?

Ian faria is our common factor among us. We joined Ian faria to learn how to grow in life. In between we thought of a group to make changes in the society. We formed the TILT group which stands for the Indian leadership think thanks. Our only intention is to MAKE India #1.

Out of the all people who have common belief that making India #1 is their sole purpose formed the GROUP TILT. Out of this group we have a team of few people and highly intellectuals who are interested in self growth in the group TOTAL. Forming the group was the first step for growth. Next we decided to grow each other.  The group consist of people from various vertical. they belief that we growth based on what kind of society we have around.

It all started with setting goals for the day, week, month, years. I thought it is just another goal settings exercise but it brought miracle. There was someone in the group who is your friend and following up on your goal. Also we shared so many inspirational video showing the importance of having goal settings and then completing it. In between when I was discussing with my manager about my drawback, He told me about ownership. That open my eyes again. I heard this word before but never thought about it. 

Now whatever I do, I take my ownership. It is building mutual trust. In between I read article by Kayan on of TILT Group member, talking about challenging yourself everyday. Awesome article. You see we have so many layers to support our growth. First me, then my team total and then tilt group finally Ian. All people are doing awesome in my life. One of our advantages is that we have a leader who is countless times better than us that is Ian Faria. He is open to share his experience and learning. Do you think what motivate us is our self growth? No. We are bound by commitment to grow each other. We are following word of Martin Luther king where he says if you can't run, crawl. We are committed for making small/big goal and then achieve it. We are ensuring if we can't change society completely at least we will go for small improvement by all ways possible.

There are two ways to grow, either you push someone and other is to pull someone. Push is something like lecturing. In our early days of our life when our elder will say that if you don't this, you won't get this despite the fact that they were not in a position to lecture. At that point of time, I use to belief them and not 100% convinced. But when you grow and reach mountain, you can always pull people at base of mountain.

Here in this group I feel that the only objective is grow India. We want to follow the concept of pulling our fellow citizen. We don't know if we will pull everyone but we want to pull at least one and that is my concept of India#1 To make it happen, we need to activate our intellectual sleeping cells of our brain.

Finally I would like to thank my team lead by Venkat and Nila for their contribution in my life.

Handling issue in Indian Family [For Male]

Marriage is very serious life changing event. I know several of my friend suffered a lot in their marriage. Some still believe that marriage is life time contract and some believe you have to keep your wife happy and many things.

Indian man value marriage more than anythings. But few relations are born to be incompatible so nothing to worry.

I will handle 7 problem in this article which any common house where man is suffering:
1. what should be your relationship with your wife:
You may be knowing husband and wife compliment each other. This mean a lot. Think about all work in your house and divide between you and your wife like cooking food and keeping your home clean is her responsibility.
You may be observing she is not doing it with responsibility. She may be not cooking when your parents are there. She may be saying she won't cook if your friends are coming. You may get furious but be calm. Understand the first principle. Compliment her. If she doesn't want to cook, hire a cook. If she doesn't want to clean the house, Hire a maid. This will bring peace in your home.

2. Whether I should give money to her
No and never. Give her money needed and you must know when does she spend. Dont give more money than she need and you too feel she must have like you are expecting some item to your home, you have to pay so give that much. Keep some emergency money at home.

3. Should I share finance info
Please don't involve your wife in it. If she is a great investor then may be fine but never otherwise. You think about your wife as your kid and giving information irrelevant to her wish corrupt her. She will try to guide you and she will ask further question.

4. Should I force her on what she doesn't want
Please respect your wife. Never ever force her on anything. Until she doesn't want it will never happen.

5. Should you praise her
Yes you must praise her. Never complaint about her. You must say half glass is full rather saying half glass is empty.Similar how ugly she is , you must say the better part of her. You may say she look sexy when she sweat out or do exercise. man becomes man with challenges while woman becomes woman by praises. So keep praising her everytime even you are angry. You must be like shiva and listen her.

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Success Stage

Success is what? Is it getting more salary? Is it getting more work done? Or is it getting more of everything ?

Success has various stages:
1. Bestage (Beginning Stage) - Beginning Stage is when your face serious problems in your life and you look some angel to resolve your problems. You pray to god and ask for help and they share their experiences. You don't whether to try of now and then you think of simply follow since you don't know the better option. During this stage you feel you are immature to handle your problem. Then one day you decide to learn the root cause of the problem to fix it. You start looking for all great book on the topic on either google or amazon. This is what I generally do. You search for all life coaches and interact with them for your learning to take stepping stone for your success.

2. Costage (Confident Stage) - When you work for yourself and grow your skill sets and know how to handle any challenges in your life. During this stage, you become self confident. You learn various skills set enough to solve problem and at least mitigate your problems. You know if you find a problem whom to talk or what to read or what to do. You start using the power of concious mind and then programme it to benefit you.

3. Shastage (Sharing Stage) - This is the sharing stage when you share your learning with the world. You use your learning to heal the world. You give guidance to people in need. You grow them enough to replace you and then you grow further. Shastage is the most important stage when the fruits you can see and people will recognise as successful person. You feel on top of the world. Many people thank you directly or indirectly. You write book to share your knowledge. You join politics to implement your policies to benefit masses. You become life coach to grow everyone further. You create new concept and help people get rid of old stuff.


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7 Key learning from "The Private Life of Chairman Mao"

I always wondered how politian learn politics? Politics is ideally a good word which means it is all about implementing your or your party policies and thats it. But in today's case it is all about ruling.

This book is ideally for those who want to learn about ruling by hook or crook something like dictator. But this is not only limited to politics but it is also about how to excel in your field say what to do if you want to be great manager or CEO or at any responsible book.

I loved this book. We always wonder how high level people live their life or how do they do politics and how they ensure if someone is fired from the party it doesn't create a problem to anyone.

I will give glimpse of the book. Dr. Li was working in Australia and later decided to move to China which was getting ruled under Mao. He was working under his boss Wang. Wang recommended him as personal physical to Mao Zedong.

Apart from political stuff I learnt a lot about life. I am going to discuss about my learning from the book.

1. Neverever make decision in haste when you are going to take big risky decision.

Dr. Li was working and doing well in Australia as doctor. He heard from news paper Mao is ruling the China and China was under communist rule. Li was married and he was skeptical about situation in China and still he believed that China is good under Mao. Rather than doing more investigation he believed one of the people there in China and moved. That brings disaster for himself. Entire book he is living a scary life. Every word he has to be very careful and very worried. Even he did everything right but still he had been sent for hard labour. He was forced to speak every single event of his life to Mao. He was scared for his wife and kids all the time including his own life. His decision without proper thought he brought into problem everyone in the family including his mother, wife and kids.

2. You may or may not get your dream BUT you can always do your best. Your BEST will always bring you out of problem in your life

Dr. Li became Mao's personal physician and then his role was to travel with him. In general, Mao use to get Cough and Fever. To solve these problem he worked really hard on these diseases. He always wanted to be a neurosurgeon but since he stuck in China and specially as Mao's personal physician he had no more choices so he started giving his full attention to his work. Due to giving his best, Mao was very much relying on him. That is the reason during his service to Mao for 22years, he was sent to Hard labour and countryside for social work and living with peasants as punishment was removed and called back to service. Mao only trusted him for his diseases and he was always doing his best in his job.

Not only that,, when Mao's wife was behind him for assassination, he stayed with Factory employee and during that time he look after those peasant and they saved his life in return. It means his work pay him back in large. Due to his best work, Mao had to change his order and finally saved his family in many stances.

3. Be trustworthy and have integrity

Dr Li was very much confidant of Mao hence Mao use to reveal many his next political steps to him. Since he has integrity and he was not revealing anything to anyone other than his boss to whom he must have to share info.
During one instance Dr. Li's wife had to go country side for social work, Dr Li can't take care of his sons since he had to give service to Mao as well. Dr Li talked to his boss Wang, and say what kind of master I have who is not concerned about my family despite I am giving my day and night for my boss and Finally Wang talked and called her wife back immediately. Since he was trust worthy, His boss Wang and Mao both saved him many times.
Mao had insomnia and also he can't be make a woman pregnant and these secret are with Mao. Mao was worried about these secrets to be known to other fellow partymen since he had sexual relations with huge number of young woman in China. That is the reason Mao never changed his doctor. Dr. Li never shared these thing with anyone in party or outside party.

4. Family is the most important thing

Love your family and do what you can do. Dr. Li suffered a lot during cultural revolution. His wife told him not to come to home. And also don't do suicide since it may bring more problem to family. Mao's wife was behind Dr. Li to brand him as traitor and arrest him. Dr. Li ensures he doesn't go to home as he may get arrested there and brand him as traitor. He fought with official to protect his family to his best. That is the love I am impressed with.

5. Whatever situation stand by your opinion if you fully convinced with it

There were several occasion in Dr. Li career while serving Mao as personal physician, when he had to take stand for his conscious mind. He was under tremendous pressure to bend for other political power in CPC(Communist Party of China) but he stand by his knowledge. In fact on medicine related question he countered Mao too which was very rude but correct according to him. Many political power in the Party called him arrogant. But due to his way to defending his opinion, Mao trusted him a lot and for any medicine related query, Mao always take his opinion as final opinion.
This trust in Dr. Li, Mao was forced to bring him back from any kind of hard labour or serving country side. In fact due to Mao trust in him, his enemies were curbed by Mao.

6. Primarily enhance your skills according to your role not knowledge

On several occasion Mao was under pressure from his party men something like Great leap forward and cultural revolution. He wanted to fire his enemies from party and punish them hard. It was not easy for him directly. He used to dismiss them indirectly. To learn how to punish his enemy, he was not reading books on humanity and other. He wanted to be dictator and to remove his enemies he used to read book on Dynasty. He wanted to understand how dynasties rule china for 200 or 500 years. He was reading books of whom he was most critic in public.

The same way when we want to be manager we have to enhance our managerial skills. We should know how to gather control over our companies. How to push our ideas into our companies.How to fire non-performing or non-aligned employee.

7. Write a book

Dr. Li was reluctant to write this book since he doesn't want to lie and he doesn't want to speak truth as well and worst part of China. But he was way forward for many people. We as a reader could have never known of what is behind china and how do they run propaganda. In fact even our politian also use many of tools present in this book. As a reader you can understand what is propaganda and what is truth. At least you can re-think about following our some of over smart leaders or managers or anyone else.

7 key ways to get rid of any constipation

Constipation is one of the worst disease and it creates a bad mood. It generates many other disease. Also due to not good bowel movement peaople fart occasioanlly.\

Constipation is easy to fix naturally

To get rid of this problem, please follow the following 7 steps:

Eat more carrot

Start eating more and more carrot every day. This will result in more percentage of cellulose and that will help in easy bowel movement

Use Indian Toilet

Drink a litre of water everyday before toilet

Spread your palm in upside up postion

Sleep well

Ride cycle everyday

Aoid maida/Non veg made product