Handling issue in Indian Family [For Male]

Marriage is very serious life changing event. I know several of my friend suffered a lot in their marriage. Some still believe that marriage is life time contract and some believe you have to keep your wife happy and many things.

Indian man value marriage more than anythings. But few relations are born to be incompatible so nothing to worry.

I will handle 7 problem in this article which any common house where man is suffering:
1. what should be your relationship with your wife:
You may be knowing husband and wife compliment each other. This mean a lot. Think about all work in your house and divide between you and your wife like cooking food and keeping your home clean is her responsibility.
You may be observing she is not doing it with responsibility. She may be not cooking when your parents are there. She may be saying she won't cook if your friends are coming. You may get furious but be calm. Understand the first principle. Compliment her. If she doesn't want to cook, hire a cook. If she doesn't want to clean the house, Hire a maid. This will bring peace in your home.

2. Whether I should give money to her
No and never. Give her money needed and you must know when does she spend. Dont give more money than she need and you too feel she must have like you are expecting some item to your home, you have to pay so give that much. Keep some emergency money at home.

3. Should I share finance info
Please don't involve your wife in it. If she is a great investor then may be fine but never otherwise. You think about your wife as your kid and giving information irrelevant to her wish corrupt her. She will try to guide you and she will ask further question.

4. Should I force her on what she doesn't want
Please respect your wife. Never ever force her on anything. Until she doesn't want it will never happen.

5. Should you praise her
Yes you must praise her. Never complaint about her. You must say half glass is full rather saying half glass is empty.Similar how ugly she is , you must say the better part of her. You may say she look sexy when she sweat out or do exercise. man becomes man with challenges while woman becomes woman by praises. So keep praising her everytime even you are angry. You must be like shiva and listen her.

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Success Stage

Success is what? Is it getting more salary? Is it getting more work done? Or is it getting more of everything ?

Success has various stages:
1. Bestage (Beginning Stage) - Beginning Stage is when your face serious problems in your life and you look some angel to resolve your problems. You pray to god and ask for help and they share their experiences. You don't whether to try of now and then you think of simply follow since you don't know the better option. During this stage you feel you are immature to handle your problem. Then one day you decide to learn the root cause of the problem to fix it. You start looking for all great book on the topic on either google or amazon. This is what I generally do. You search for all life coaches and interact with them for your learning to take stepping stone for your success.

2. Costage (Confident Stage) - When you work for yourself and grow your skill sets and know how to handle any challenges in your life. During this stage, you become self confident. You learn various skills set enough to solve problem and at least mitigate your problems. You know if you find a problem whom to talk or what to read or what to do. You start using the power of concious mind and then programme it to benefit you.

3. Shastage (Sharing Stage) - This is the sharing stage when you share your learning with the world. You use your learning to heal the world. You give guidance to people in need. You grow them enough to replace you and then you grow further. Shastage is the most important stage when the fruits you can see and people will recognise as successful person. You feel on top of the world. Many people thank you directly or indirectly. You write book to share your knowledge. You join politics to implement your policies to benefit masses. You become life coach to grow everyone further. You create new concept and help people get rid of old stuff.


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